Masturbation is a healthy, natural, and safe way to practice self-care.

International Association for Sexual Medicine research papers show there is no “normal” frequency of masturbation. Some masturbate often. Some masturbate weekly or monthly. Some may not prefer to masturbate at all. Masturbation is safe and healthy as long as it does not adversely affect sexual relationship, intercourse or interfere with other activities such as school or work.

How to masturbate

Set the mood


Masturbation does not have to be quick in the bathroom! One can schedule their personal time as they wish and get some standard “my time”.

Change positions

There is no reason to stick to the same routine when masturbating. Instead, add some excitement by changing positions.

If you are always standing, push your hips forward and try to lean against the wall. If you are always lying down, try to sit on your bed or chair. You can enjoy masturbation session on all fours. Different poses mean different sensations. It creates more satisfaction.

Take time

Do not rush. Masturbation does not have to be a “go, go, go” act. It does not have to be a flip process. Slow down and explore the things that make you feel better. During masturbation session you can test speed, strokes, positions, hands and more. Spending your time discovering what motivates you will lead to a better orgasm / climax.

Change hands

Changing hands, like changing positions, can cause different sensations. These can lead to intense ejaculation. Orgasmic pleasure can be increased by using the non-dominant hand to masturbate. It can simulate the feeling that someone else is giving you a hand job. To make masturbation more adventurous, hold the penis against the abdomen. Then quickly strike the base of the penis with the non-dominant hand.

Move your hips

Usually individuals forget to move the hips during masturbation. Moving the hips during masturbation is not like playing with a partner. But this movement will increase in intensity and lead to greater happiness.

Next time during masturbation try the hip movements in a circle or back and forth – or in a way that makes you feel better. Increase the moving speed as you approach the climax. Remember that masturbation does not have to be the same every time.

Try different strokes

Monotonous masturbation techniques may be boring. Experiment with different movements for a more profound and powerful climax experience. One can try long, twisting strokes from base to tip. You can palm and pull the penis head while masturbating with a full grip. You can also add a little rub with the classic three-finger grip. Play around with different stroking styles to find something that feels more pleasurable.

Do not focus only on the penis

There is a lot more in the genitals than the penis alone. Focus little more attention to those areas. Play with scrotum and perineum. Like penis, scrotum and perineum too has many nerve endings. Use them too to obtain more pleasure. After all, don’t forget to stroke your entire body to build up that “Big O”.


Orgasm control, also known as “edging”, attracts pleasure. One can have a longer, more explosive experience.  Stroke the penis until the semen comes out and stop it completely.

Slowly start masturbating again. Increase the speed until you are ready to finish and then back off again. Repeat this process as many times as you like.

Masturbating with an overly firm or aggressive grip can cause penile densensitization. This anecdotal phenomenon is called as death grip syndrome. This can lead to difficulty in reaching orgasm during intercourse and problems in maintaining erection.Some people think that holding the penis too tightly by the hand gives more pleasure. Repeated excessive gripping of penis during masturbation in the future makes one feel less or less stimulated.

In fact a vagina is not going to be as tight as a hand. This is the science.

Use lubrication when masturbate. This will minimize over gripping. Lube helps to increase sensitivity to touch.


Frenulum is the small triangle of skin at the base of the penis where it meets the shaft. This area is densely packed with nerves and can create more sensation with less pressure stimulation. Try a very light touch on this area with good lubrication.

Rough repetitive hand movements of vigorous masturbation create friction and heat on the skin of the penis, leaving it more susceptible to wear and tear. Vigorous masturbation over such a delicate area can lead to tearing or irritating the frenulum.


An artificial vagina is a device designed to imitate the female sex organ. To achieve this, it will generally be made of a soft material and may be lubricated. The materials used imitate the feel of natural skin. Sometimes those materials may be allergic to penile skin. Improper toys may not accommodate penis size and can cause penile damage.


A cock ring or cock ring / erection ring / penis shaft ring/ is a ring worn around the penis, usually at the base. It restricts the flow of blood from the erect penis and produce a stronger erection or to maintain an erection for a longer period of time.

Penis rings should not be worn for more than about 30 minutes. It is very dangerous to sleep or use illicit drugs along with penis ring use. The first sign of problems is penis begins to become numb, painful or cold. Once this happens, remove the cock ring.


Masturbation is healthy. It can bring many benefits to the mind and body

Masturbation is a natural way to explore the imagination and make someone feel better. There are usually no harmful side effects. Only guilt or shame can cause sexual dysfunction.

     Dr. Vijayakumar did his MBBS in Kilpauk Medical College and later went on to Madras Medical College for his Master courses in Clinical Pathology. He underwent masters in Psychology and Yoga. Underwent Fellowship training in Andrology and Clinical Embryology by Prof Ariff Bongso. Did his PhD in Hormones, Yoga and Sexual problems. He has been trained by the Council of Sex Education & Parenthood International (India). He was the first medical professional to start an exclusive clinic for the management of sexual problems in Salem,Tamil Nadu in the year 1988. He has put up more than thirty years experience. He has offered professional help to thousands of persons especially newly married. Besides treating sexual dysfunctions, he is also an expert in treating pre-marital counselling.

Trekking and offroad jeeping are his other passions.